I never suggested you leave. I asked why you think making her participate in the marriage was going above and beyond.
And you answered with a list of reasons why YOU don't want to leave.
Are you saying that you think SHE'D leave if you drew a boundary around what you are willing or not willing to tolerate from her?
Her saying 'pack your bags' is nothing. It's not you leaving, nor is it her leaving. It's her effectively shutting down the conversation by hitting you where you have a sensitive area--abandonment, or being alone.
I wouldn't give that comment so much power if I were you.
I hope I'm not coming off harsh; I'm trying to get to the bottom of why you've completely given up on yourself.
