it is too hard to explain in the short time and space I have. I could write a book (as I am sure everyone on here could).
Let's just say that I think in every relationship there is one person who is willing to throw in the towel. At some point in our relationship that became my wife. At any time in our discussions if it becomes heated she will tell me to pack my bags. A year and a half ago I did. I spent 48 hours GONE. We got back together and went through a year of counseling.
If you asked me last week how things were going I would have told you pretty good. She is just in a mood right now for whatever reason. She of course does not believe this. She feels this is all me.
I have thought many times about our future together and I always see it playing out one of three ways...
1. she begins menopause and her monthly mood swings get multiplied by 100 = divorce 2. the kids grow up, I retire, we can't stand being around each other = divorce 3. the kids grow up, I retire, my sex drive drops, we enjoy being around each other
No where in there do I imagine a future where she actually takes an interest in my needs and we work something out that we are BOTH happy with.
So, why don't I divorce her you are probably wondering? why stay?
I cannot "give up" on the marriage. I cannot put our kids through that. I can play the role of happy husband and when she is in her "good phase" life is good. When she is in her "crappy phase" I just slog through it till it's good again. I have no interest in going through a divorce, living in a crappy apartment, visiting my kids, etc.
