well, I've been thinking about this a lot today and I guess the point I'm at now is a question...
If one person has a need/want (emotional connection) then who is responsible for making sure that need/want gets met. In my situation, if my wife felt that I was not spending enough time with her, all she has to do is say "hey, let's have lunch" or "what are you doing Saturday?" - should it be MY responsibility to fullfill her need when I don't even know she is lacking? If people don't want to go out of their way to hang around you because you're complaining - shouldn't you try NOT complaining all the time?
I've read a dozen posts on here about the high sex drive person doing everything in their power to make it easier on their low desire mate to meet their needs. We know that we aren't going to make much headway if we are constantly telling them what a failure they are in the sex department...
yet, that is exactly what my wife is going. Instead of coming up to me and giving me a hug and saying "I've really missed you...let's go do something together..." she says "your dropping the ball again and I'm really disappointed in you... how many times have I told you that I...blah,blah,blah...
