1. everything seems fine 2. she mentions something is wrong 3. if things don't change asap we have another talk and she says that it ALWAYS happens and it NEVER changes (our counselor and several books I have read say that you should never use these words since things are usually not ALWAYS and NEVER). 4. she will take whatever the situation is and multiply it by 100. For example... I forget to take out the trash once every 6 months and she will say "this happens EVERY WEEK" 5. any attempt that I make to defend myself is seen as finger pointing, tit-for-tat, or trying to place blame on her 6. I avoid her for a few days and try to placate her and then we start again at step 1.
