I started thinking a lot about WHY I avoid spending time with my wife. Well, it's true we both have very busy schedules. But, when I am around her lately she seems to be complaining every time. She's either got to tell me how horrible her professor is or how rotten her day was, or the lady at the church committee who is being a B. If she is not complaining about that, then she is telling me something I forgot or I'm not doing or I need to do...etc.
So, why would I WANT to hang out with someone like that? I get up at 6am and go,go,go till 9pm at night. Then she can be found staring at the TV so I go do my computer work. I've tried going in there and watching TV with her, but she doesn't seem to notice and definately doesn't count it as quality time so why miss out on what I enjoy (getting work done on computer).
So, now for the next chapter in this saga.
I read everything you guys say and I decide to schedule some time. I have heard about a new coffee shop on the radio that has live music, soup and sandwiches in the old district of town. So, when she gets home I say "hey, what are you doing Friday night? how bout we go out and spend some time together..." she is still upset about our discussion that morning (where she had to get on me for not paying enough attention). So, she quickly snaps... "where? doing what?" after I tell her she says "who is playing... I don't even know them... why would I want to go...?"
So, we have another discussion about how horrible a person I am for not seeing her... for making her feel invisible... for not hearing her...
This morning when I get up I have 10 extra minutes that I'm waiting on the kids so I decide to go up and hang out with her while she is drying her hair. Then, when she comes down she makes a negative comment about my coat. Then, even though I don't say anything she gets upset that I'm "rolling my eyes" - even though I don't feel like I've done anything. I tell her she is over reacting and then as she walks out the door she tells me she doesn't appreciate me squashing her opinions.
GEEZ. I have just about had enough of this...
vent vent vent vent
so, I've got a busy day today... but, rather than take care of some errands at lunch I will stay in my office because there is a 5% change she just might come by looking for me and if she does and I'm not here I will definately hear it when I get home.
So, again... why am I supposed to WANT to be around this person?
