FWIW....you are going through the same things we all have gone through. But, it's not you. You know what...my H also used to tell me he NEVER thought about sex, but he does...however he became conditioned not to admit it, or to ignore those twinges of desire.
Are you able to envision yourself living in thie R the way it is for the rest of your life? If not, then it's up to you to do something that's going to get his attention....so that he really takes you seriously. I'm sure your H loves you, just as mine loves me....the thought of really losing me and our family as he knows it....was enough to get him to the counselor with me at the very least.
