Quote: He says that the sterotype is true that guys just don't have deep feelings about this kind of stuff.(after I asked him what it was he felt I could do to make our situation better for him). But I know that is crap, because I hear the pain of the HDM on this board and know they miss the EC in their R. So, I responded to him and said, "Well, there is a sterotype that all men want is sex and my husband doesn't want sex." He responded with, I like sex, I just don't have the need to do it. ???
It's quite possible that he is telling the truth. What he is saying is that he is happy with the R as it is. Instead of trying to tell him that he's "wrong" for not wanting sex, which is only going to put him on the defensive, I think a better tactic would be to tell him that you are aware that he's happy with the status quo but YOU AREN'T. And that you will be attending counseling, with or without him, as a way to gain some personal happiness in an unfulfilling marriage.
