Quote: My H told her H that I wouldn't be going on any trip.
What the hell!?!? So he DOES expect you to always be there no matter what. In a future post I'd love to read that you just came out and shook your head at him and said "you know about this," and walked away. If I were you I'd be just itching to call him on it to his face the next time he plays dumb and walk away before he has time to respond. But, there I go, not DBing again...
I hope you have a GREAT time and come home and talk about it for 3 weeks straight!