Just read your thread for 1st time and wanted to share my experience with you... My H moved out and started seeing other woman nearly 2 years ago. For the 1st year he kept coming back all the time and stopping 2/3/4 nights a week. Then eventually he moved back in. BUT he was still seeing OW. I DB and got on with my life for so long until one day I just got to apoint where I gave up. I had had enough, I went out 1 night met someone else and that was it. My H moved out - couldnt stand it, jealous etc etc. For 8 months I enjoyed a lovely new relationship. My obessession about my H and making my marriage work faded becuase I had a new man to focus on and i was really happy.. Was convinced i had made right decision. BUT 2 months later, my H started instigating things with me again. Honeymoon period with BF had worn off and I started having feelings for my H again. So where am I now??? Kind of back where I started. Trying to see if I can try again with my H, who still will not give up OW at the moment but who wants to take things with me slowly... Nitemare - my advice is go with how you feel but do make sure you feel as near to 100% sure about what you do... Looking back I rushed into a new relationship to basically take the focus off my H. On the re-bound as they say!! And it did help short term, but long term I am only back in the same situation now, yes ok I feel alot stronger than before .
I suppose what I am trying to say is dont give up completely until you really feel you can follow it through. It sounds from you thread that you are doing a great job of getting on with your own life anyway... I think your H will come round but it could be a long time... keep looking after yourself - its the best solution..
