I've stopped 2nd guessing myself. It takes too much energy. I do a lot of up front thinking before I do something and if it blows up in face, then I try to learn from it for next time.
do you focus on the fact that it never should have happened in the first place?!
No, it should have never happened in the first place. I'm not sure how it could have been prevented.
I am absolutely convinced that W is an MLC'er. Everything is about her and her happiness. W has stated "I'll do what I want, when I want, with whom I want." During last night's phone call she asked if it ever occurred to me that DD's wanted to stay there during the week. I said that I asked each of the girls what they wanted and D15 said the she didn't want to stay there on Tue PM. W then asked D15, "Why didn't you ever tell me that you didn't want to stay here?" I get the feeling that W didn't ask if DD's wanted to stay there she just said, Here's what I want, but this is just my conjecture.
When I get some time, I'm going to move over to the MLC forum. I'll post a link here so you can find me.
How are you feeling right now? Tired. I slept from 11 to 4. 2nd night in a row. D14 had a nightmare the night before, woke me at 4. She gets them when she feels stress. D14 went back to sleep, I didn't.
9:00 I ring the door bell. No answer. 9:01 I ring again. D14 opens the door in tears (D15 is in the shower). We talk, I assure her that I love her, I will always lover her, kiss her good night and leave w/o DD's
Ok so DD15 does want to come home. IMO she was in the shower becase she wanted to avoid the conflict. DD 14 is of course in tears because there is conflict.
I am really impressed by your remarks and going there.
Why did you leave without them? after all that? Your W is breaking a court schedule? Jabez thats a test you dont have to wory about. She knows what has been said, she knows whats right. YOU just have to do it. I know not fair. Your DD's need a strong dad. Sometimes you have to ignore their tears while doing what they need.
Really glad to hear you dont beat yourself up anymore. I still do that to often.
Why did you leave without them? D14 was in tears, D15 was in the shower. DD's have never seen W&I argue in front of them. I wasn't prepared for a confrontation w/W in front of DD's.
Your W is breaking a court schedule? Not really. There is no court ruling. There is only a 15 month precedent.
Now I have to figure out what will happen on Thu PM.
I took a look at TG's thread and your comments there. I liked your story about stopping the car and smacking the dashboard. Next time W hangs up on me, I will call back and say that I will not tolerate rude behavior like that.
I looked in the mirror the other day and noticed that my spine was beginning to show.
