Hi Jabez! Something came to mind as I was catching up on your thread.
In the case where W is taking D14 out of her home for the evening
The words 'her home' caught my attention. I think it will serve you well if you can get to a place in your new life where you accept that your daughters now have two homes-one with you and one with WAW. WAW has made poor decisions that have affected your entire family in a negative way....but she is still their Mom. The girls are with you the majority of the time because you feel it's best to start and end a schoolday in the same home. But I think comments like the one above speak to the idea that you are holding on to your indignation and that there is more behind your actions than just what's best for the girls. I think you've come a long way Jabez. Now if you can coparent and not only tolerate WAW's relationship with the girls but actually try to foster it, I think your girls would really benefit. It is possible that your daughter said the homework incident was her fault because she felt like you would automatically jump to the conclusion that it was WAW's fault....maybe history has trained her? Either way, it seems she is trying to predict your reactions and act accordingly. That's not good. She has her own emotions to deal with and that's all she should have to deal with right now. I know you want the best for your girls and I really admire you for that. So many Dads out there don't try a sliver of what you have. I'm always here for any support I can offer you.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
