We've been separated 16 months now and WAW's A is in it's 21st month.
I've been out of town for a few days and sick for a few, but I'm back.
Update: Last Friday, WAW stopped by in the AM to drop off DD's things on the way to work. (They stayed w/her while I was out of town). She asked about doing the taxes this year. Last year, I wanted to do the taxes together, file jointly like nothing happened. She agreed to file jointly, but wanted no parts of doing the taxes together. She said "next year we would be filing separately". On Friday she was almost in tears saying that if we filed separately she wouldn't be able to take any deductions and didn't know where she was going to get the $ to pay her taxes. I told that I didn't look at the taxes yet and that I would let her know soon.
Later I received a call from the attorney that is representing me. We have a new court date for the custody hearing. It just happens to be on one of the D's birthday. WAW may have already known this and it was also making her upset.
WAW's dad had a serious operation last week as well. He is doing OK now, but it had to be on her mind.
As so often happens these days, I'm looking at the tax sitch from two side: 1) Should I do my taxes in a way that I feel most accurately represents our sitch or 2) Should I do my taxes in a way that lessens the tax burden of WAW? Is chosing the latter DB'ing or "Enabling"?
I really have no idea of what to do about the custody hearing. I want to shield DD's from the hurt that will surely come from the proceedings, but I am not the one who initiated the suit. It is not mine to "call off". (The suit comes down to DD's sleeping over 2 nights a week at WAW's apt.) (Funding her L must also be straining her finances.)
