It's not easy to do the "right" things...and it's really hard to do things for ourselves to make us happy....when so many of us are people pleasers....and I think many of us on this BB are people pleasers.
Scott, ok...I can understand why you would opt out of the session if she needsyou around for a procedure. I agree though with Lou on....what's so bad about going to a MC on Valentine's Day? If she thinks that's a bad thing, then in my mind...she's not viewing the C as a favorable thing, when in reality....it is. Seeking out help during a troubled time....is a good thing, it means you want to work things out (most of the time). You want to learn to communicate with her....you aren't there to attack and accuse (hopefully). My H wouldn't think a thing about it if we went to the MC on Valentine's Day....we'd just make plans to have someone watch our son and grab some dinner together afterwards.
Who knows...perhaps she doesn't want to go because she's already made plans for the two of you (I'm the eternal optimist LOL). But, I would be wary of her finding reasons/excuses that she can't go for one reason or another.
