Boy, it hurt to read that. Yet it was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you. Even though I'm crying my eyes out!! {insert half-hearted smile}
It's funny, I never thought of myself as the controlling one - rather, I thought he was. You're right, however - I'm confusing my hurt and my pain with what the kids may go thru. In reality, we have a 16 month old & 3 year old who really won't understand; D7 will probably just think it's a fun time. It hurts to accept that.
And it hurts even more realizing that I am the one who isn't ready for any of this.
He has never, up to this point, shown any interest in spending time with the kids alone. Taking them out of town by himself? He's barely changed any of their diapers; never spent any time with them while he was here. He only took D7 places - not the two little ones. Says it's too much work. That's why I find this so unsettling. The kids,(and yes - me) - we were all here for the taking - and he chose to ignore us. Even this past weekend when I was in Florida. He chose to go skiing with the GF instead of spending any time with the kids. The kids hadn't seen him from Friday until Monday when he got home. So why the sudden interest now?
I guess you're right. He's not coming home. Not any time soon, probably never. His mind seems made up.
So, do you suggest I let him know I've reconsidered and tell him to take all three kids?
