Well, I sent the email. He was pressing for my response and I couldn't put it off any longer without him getting all PO"d at me.
His reply "It Makes sense, I am ready however for all 3, but if it makes you feel better, I'll just take D7 to a movie. "
I texted him back "Thank you for this consideration. D7 will love a movie."
I ran out to the store and came back to: "Let her stay over then". I haven't answered....probably won't either.
I feel so backed into a corner. His lies and his deceit have run so deep lately. I don't trust that OW won't be there - either planned or "unexpectedly". I don't believe most of what he says anymore. Whether he's been purposely misleading and deceitful or whether it's my perception, or a combination of both....I don't know what the hell is going on anymore. And until I do, I'm not harming my children unnecessarily. I'm probably wrong, I've been wrong before, and I'm sure I'll be wrong again.
This all seems very contrived to me. Like it's been in the works. Like he's out to "prove" something to OW. Like he's completely written "us" off. How do I handle this? I'm so confused. I'm trying to be confused here on the board and not with him, yet I don't even know if I'm pulling that off correctly. Everything I say or do to him comes off as adversarial.
Do I just let the kids go? Have D7 see mommy & daddy sleeping together one day, and daddy with OW the next? The thought disgusts me. Am I in denial? Ugh!!!!