Read your advice to GH....very good indeed. In fact, I printed out the last 2 paragraphs just to have on hand in the upcoming hours....days. A reminder to myself.
from your post to GH:
Quote: If she says anything, just tell her that you want to respect both of you by giving you each the space you need to figure out what you each want. That it is not healthy for you to stay in an old R that she has left. That any future H-W R between the two of you, or any other R (friendship, co-parents, strangers) that may replace it, will need to be built with the honesty and trust of two people who know that each has chosen to be in that R with the other. Until the two of you decide to be in the same relationship together, you are respecting both of you as people with emotions and feelings by taking some space to develop your own life.
I thought I've tried to tell my SO this....yet he still seems to like to constantly be vague?, confusing?? misleading???...on purpose..for instance today -he kept saying "this isn't permanent"; "just until we sort things out"; "I don't want to move out, I just don't know what to do"...then the texts that he's hurting...he's sad, he'll call me later to talk.
These are things I don't know how to respond to. I actually told him that emotions were running too high today and we needed to wait a bit to do any talking...and I stayed in a different part of the house when he was taking his things. Just to avoid talk that would perhaps end up badly.
I don't know. Where I do go from here? Do I not answer him? This brings texts/calls/emails saying "Please say something." "Please answer me"; "Please tell me what you're thinking".
