I feel like the WAS - I see nothing, remember nothing but BAD.
You said many very strong things in this post, but this one stuck out to me. Isn't it true at some point. As we gain back out stability after being knocked upside-down and sideways from all this, we start to realize that WE are the sane ones and maybe it's US who should be taking steps to literally move on.
I really like what you are saying in all this. I don't think you are truly setting ultimatums because you think it's totally over, you just have reached your limit and are trying to identify a different path that will possibly make you happier and give him the room to figure out what he wants. I hope you are right in your decisions.
As for your H. Wow. He really is confused, isn't he. My W does a little of the same thing like when she asked me if I met and new "friends" lately. They somehow think that no matter what they do, we will be right there waiting for them, celibate, brooding, open to whatever. Wrong. I think they sometimes mistake our DBing for weakness until they finally realized that love is the source or our strength and DB is just the current expression of it. Ultimately, we will turn that love totally inward and then they will be faced with the true reality of what they "wanted". I wish them all the happiness in the world.
You sound great right now. Take care in making these decisions and make sure it's really what YOU want and not a reaction to him. I wish you the best and a happy as possible V day!
