Sara, don't worry about what anyone else says...I had to go thru that posting here with being "not married" and feeling the stigma that maybe I shouldn't be posting on a marriage site.
I think it's commendable that you have enough foresight to recognize that your M may be in trouble and try to fix it long before you get to the point that some of the rest of us are at...I think that is good.
Yeah, I'm headed to the Daytona 500! SO & I used to go every year, as well as some other races, but, I haven't been down in a couple of years. I'm so looking forward to it! What happens in FL, stays in FL!!
As far as SO watching the girls - that's really pretty funny...and sad. The answer is no - his mother is coming to stay here for the 5 days. Besides, SO has to work every morning as well as every night (except for Sunday) while I'm gone.
I think I've made up my mind to pack his suitcase and have it ready for him when he gets here. I just cannot make myself act "as if" today. Having him here is only going to fuel my resentment, anger and hurt and cause me to react negatively. Having him leave may not be the best choice, but today it's what "I" need. I feel like he's crossing my boundaries. Not sure yet though, I'm still thinking about it....although time is running short, he'll be here in about an hour.
SO plays the same games with me, as well. The "I'm bored, I'm alone" schtick to the OW - meantime, we've just done something - like just got home from being away for the weekend, just ML, something...he's lying to her probably more than he lies to me. Makes no sense. He's trying to get something from this girl based on lies...I don't get it - why would my SO, or your H, or anyone want an R like that? One that's built on bullshit and half-truths? I don't understand how pretending to be something your not makes for a good R.
The question of the day, I suppose? They have these false R's that they believe to be the "real thing" or they're "in love", while the "real" relationship/marriage takes a beating because they think it's so bad and not worth fixing. Or it's too hard, or some other excuse.
