The 5 LL probably is a good place to start. I've been unable to figure out H's LL, so maybe that's the quiz I should actually have him take if he will. Great idea. Then I'll figure something out based on that.

Yes. He knows that you havent, and so do I.
Hence his finding it comical that you spend so much time reading asnd studying R's. I hope you can get him to take it. I wouldnt doubt that he will dissemble, or even tell you what they are but then not allow you to do them.

Yes its .

PT/ intimacy/ kissing is going to be a big LL for him. Hence the reason why he is preventing you from filling it.


My suggestion to you in the previous post was based on WOA. They cannot be phony or overdone though. You have to truly believe them. This is someting that he cannot prevent you from doing, all he can do is just pretend to ignore, or grumble about. If he says something attacking about the past, that IHO proves you dont mean what you are saying, Just acknowledge it and reaffirm that you see his positive attribute now. The attack is a defense mechanism. Understand? If you attack back it will negate your original attempt.

Picking at him will raise his defenses and not allow anything you do to make him feel good about you.
I think he will in fact start making efforts, after you show him that you 'get it', because IMO he does care for you.
I see several glaringly obvious things that to me say he really cares about you.
I also see several glaringly obvious things he needs to work on.

Dont we all.