I was thinking of was more that "vaulnerability" you are talking about when you did what you did. Those are the feelings I was talking about sticking around.
Yeah, you're probably right. All the things that lead up to an A don't just disappear after it's revealed. No, it just goes from bad to worse.
As for the dinner, yea, I thought that was a bit of BS on his part and I think you displayed a TON virtue in how you handled that.
Thanks! That's a big compliment because these are the types of heat of the moment exchanges between H and I that I usually walk away from feeling super guilty because I didn't do everything right. Anything right.
You are a great woman who is trying to do the right thing. I admire you greatly for that. Never be willing to be controlled. You don't need to control someone to have them be faithful to them.
Thank you.
First let me say, I sense a lighter, less stressed Heather in your postings.
Definitely. None of us are wired to be living in the kind of environment that was taking place in my home. I am sooooooooo relieved to be getting along better, it's bound to shine through.
Maybe he's not into the "Inventory", what about looking thru the 5LL? An "Act of Service" maybe or a "Gift" that he would appreciate or "Quality Time" where the focus is on him?
The 5 LL probably is a good place to start. I've been unable to figure out H's LL, so maybe that's the quiz I should actually have him take if he will. Great idea. Then I'll figure something out based on that.
I am happy for you Heather. Your story, COG's story, PARob and other's encourage me to go in for "just one more round".
Wow, my story....inspiring? Sheesh, who'da thunk? Seriously, things that are important to you are almost always worth one more round.
I have started a thread over in the SSM forum. I'll probably be updating there at least for a little while. I don't know if I will return to this forum or not. Hope to see you on my thread over there! Here's a link
