I'm not THAT new to your sitch. After my first misunderstanding, I read up on you. I know about most of your issues and I don't think I was insinuating that you were in love with OM. I know it was a different kind of affair and the fog I was thinking of was more that "vaulnerability" you are talking about when you did what you did. Those are the feelings I was talking about sticking around. As for the dinner, yea, I thought that was a bit of BS on his part and I think you displayed a TON virtue in how you handled that. I think I have said this on many occasions, both to you and around the boards; if my W did a fraction of what you are doing to win the trust of your H and rebuild your marriage, I would be ready to forgive and move on.
You are a great woman who is trying to do the right thing. I admire you greatly for that. Never be willing to be controlled. You don't need to control someone to have them be faithful to them.
