I am assuming you have read all the usual suspects, right? I am reading Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus and there is a lot of stuff in there that really addresses your issues. If you have read it then likely you know what I am talking about, if not then maybe you should give it a try. I also agree with the post that says despite any communication problems you and your H have, he clearly is doing more than simply acting out the male need for independence, etc. I just think, like we always say, YOU are the only one YOU can change so maybe altering your take on these things would help him realize he needs to as well.
