You can have a pity party any time you want. I know I had plenty for myself.
You're in a tough sitch. Maybe you and H are stuck in some power struggle, with bedtime the battlefield. I like the advice you're getting from folks here. If you let H work it out, he'll have to act as a responsible parent all by himself.
I play all kinds of silly games with my kids. When I drop S6 off at school, I get a "high-five" from him. He's started touching my palm with one finger, and I go reeling backwards. (I check for kids behind me before I set up.)
He smiles, but in a year or two it would be way too embarrassing for him, so it will end.
H will work out his R with S5 (and his R with D3) himself. If he wants to "be a kid" forever, eventually S5 won't. No matter what happens, you will always be Mom to your kids.
Remember the piece about how things can feel like they'll always be as they are right now? This might be a good time to imagine how things will be different when you and H communicate more openly and respectfully.
When's the next MC session? H's tonsils are pretty well healed by now, right?
Thanks,
Joe
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