SH put that in a much more concise way. Very well said. I guess I picked up on the same thing about your H. In W's case she didn't so much actively rebel against my controlling behavior but she would get to a point where she would say things like how she was going to get this or that job, make her own money and start to do what she wanted to do no matter what. This was BEFORE the bombs fell (can you say warning sign?). My point is that my W didn't know how to combat or deal with my control issues other than to completely rebel and react drastically instead of trying to communicate her frustration. Possibly her A started as her finally acting on her desire to escape my control. This seems like where your H is at right now, and my hope is that your C will be able to help you both change your behavior and communication so H will not feel controlled and you both can get to a point where you can make these decisions and stick to them without someone feeling "wrong".
