Learning to Trust Myself VI

[heatherg]

H seems to not have these problems getting along with the kids... is it because the kids don't expect anything from him

I've thought about that before. H definitely has a problem with anyone expecting things of him....that's the exact reason he doesn't have any friends, even he will admit that. In our R, I feel like I have had to be careful about stating my needs or expectations because he will not do it just to spite me. That may or may not be reality, but that's how it feels.

H wants to be a kid?

I don't think anyone who knows H would dispute that. It's been sort of an affectionate joke within the family and he has admitted that ever since he was a kid he hated thinking about getting older. Like past 18 older.

He's a different kind of guy that's for sure.

So I wonder if instead of asking him if it was time to take his medicine, if instead you had said, "Would you like some ice cream with your medicine?", if his response would've been different?

Or, how about "With your medicine, would you like one lump or two?"