Learning to Trust Myself VI

[heatherg]

Thanks for the vote of confidence you guys.

When I was in Utah visiting my sister, I had a very disturbing experience. You could say it was a sign. My sister and her husband are very, very good friends with another couple that I met while I was there. Nice people and they've known each other for like 19 years or something crazy. We all went out to dinner the first night I was there. The other couple brought along their teenage daughter. I observed up close and personal some awful family dynamics...it terrified me and was so strikingly similar to my situation with H.....I just sat at the table watching them, thinking 'in 10 years, that could me'. Wow. The way the daughter and husband teamed up to humiliate the wife astounded me. At one point the daughter said "Mom, you know your bill comes to like two thirds of the total with that wine you're drinking. It's expensive." The Mom says "Why do you care how much the bill is?" The Daughter says "Because you're spending Daddy's hard earned money." The Mother laughed and said "And who gave you the impression that Daddy supports us?!" She went on about it for a sentence too much and her H looked at her and said "What the he!! is your problem, she was just kidding." The Daughter was dispresctful to the Mom the whole time and the Husband never said a word in her defense, in fact quite the opposite. It was clear she was Daddy's little girl. He was over there talking to her about her classes, etc and in my opinion it was a forced topic at that particular time. He was trying to prove how good of a Dad he was. I found it all sickening, literally sickening. Most people would have thought geez, he was kind of a creep and not gave it a second thought. But because I recognized the intimate dynamics of what was going on there....because I saw myself in her....I couldn't forget it. I can't forget it. It really bothered me and I can't stop thinking about how much I do not want that to be me.