W31, OM20

[RBinBR]

Well, W picked up D and me and we went to McDonald's. W was very glum -- said that she was feeling down and had been under a lot of stress. Of course, I didn't ask the source of her stress, but I have an idea.

She indicated that she's having more money problems. (I guess paying OM's bills wasn't such a great idea).

I told her that I had been feeling convicted about not being a very good father lately (she chortled and said I was a great parent compared to her -- no comment from me), and I had decided to take D to Disney the first week of May. She just kind of stared into space and said "Well, you've already got the tickets."

Anyway, she indicated that she wanted to come by this evening after D and I get back from church. We'll see what happens. She should get the card this afternoon at work. As down as she is today, I think it may hit her at just the right time.

[RBinBR]

My W just called, crying, and said that it's all over between her and OM! She's helping him pack up his stuff right now. Apparently, OM is all choked up, but he wants to talk to me (I've never met him) before he leaves, so I'm going to go over there in a few minutes.

Of course, I'll let you know what happens as soon as I can post again.

I believe that this is for real -- we'll see.

[Donlee]

Good Luck, Keep your wits about you. For the life of me I can't figure out why the OM wants to see you but I can't figure these people out anyways. We are here for you.

[Free_To_Be_]

Wow--you're breaking new ground. Be very careful.

All the best,

Free

[RBinBR]

Well, my W really did pack him up and send him home. She's incredibly grief-stricken and wouldn't let me comfort her at all last night. Today, she's holding me a little, but still crying constantly.

The OM ended up being too choked up to talk to me last night after all -- I think he's going to call me, though. I'm not sure, but I think this is a "I never meant to hurt you -- please take good care of her" kind of talk.

I'm still guarding my heart some, but I don't think she'll go back to him again. She knows that it won't work, and (as she told me last night) she can't fight God and win.

I'll keep y'all posted as best I can.

[Mamabear]

Fantastic! I am so happy to see another marriage on its possible way to recovery. Keep up the good work.
All the best! Mama

[RBinBR]

Well, we'll see if it's on the way to recovery or not. I just sent her back to her apartment and told her not to come back over unless she decided to completely remove OM from her life. She was still calling him and I couldn't take it. I told her that I couldn't let my heart be broken again.

Not DB, to be sure, but self-preservation, yes.

We'll see what happens.

[RBinBR]

Guys, I simply can't live in limboland. I can't live again with my W while she's continuing an A. I did that before and it nearly killed me.

She may very well call OM right now and tell him to move back, but that's her decision, not mine. I can't make her decisions for her.

[RBinBR]

Well, she just called and very softly asked if she could come over and talk, so maybe I didn't just ruin everything.

[RBinBR]

Well, we had a good evening. We prayed a lot and did some Bible study, and we are going to church in the morning.

W is still crying all the time. She is still calling OM. If fact, she's probably talking to him as I right this. She wants to give him up completely, but right now she says she's afraid that she won't be able to. I've spent most of the day just holding her as she cries.

I was scared earlier today, afraid that I would have my heart broken a third time. I allowed my heart to open too much last night -- I should have known better, since I've preached that to everyone else on this board.

Now, I'm at peace with whatever happens. I know that God is in control, and I will patiently wait for his timing to restore my marriage.