Well, I sent my W a card today (to her work, so I know that she'll get it instead of OM). Pursuing? Maybe, but it wasn't a "love" card -- it said "I Believe In You" at the top and the printed message was about how she has the strength and courage to get through this.
On the inside, I put a couple of encouraging Bible verses and a short note letting her know that I'm looking forward to the day when she, D, and I can be a family again. Anyway, I think she will appreciate it, as it is a very supportive, non-pressuring card. We'll see.
On a completely different topic, I've decided to take my 4-year old to Disneyworld the last week of April. It will be a daddy-daughter trip and we are going to have a blast! D has been wanting to go back since her last trip just before she turned 3, and I'm a big Disney fan as well.
Since W left in January, I've really been inadequate as a father, in large part because I felt emotionally drained for so long. I've really felt convicted about that in this last week, and this is something that will be a great chance for us to connect in the way that only Disney can.
It will be interesting to see how W reacts to this. We have actually talked about taking this trip if/when she ends her A, and W will definitely want to go on this trip, but I see no reason to put life on hold and wait indefinitely for her to do something that she may never do. If she doesn't break it off with the OM before the trip so that she can go (and I think this might truly motivate her), then she'll feel horribly left out and miss being part of our family. Our previous Disney trips have been wonderful family times together.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
