RB, I am trying the last resort technique on my W. I can't tell if it is working or not. I have told her that I'm moving to a new place in town and later this year, moving to NC at my old department. She kept asking why I would do that. I told her that I wanted to be on my own (not living with family) and then moving to NC because I liked the department up there better. She didn't have much to say about that. Especially when I told her that there was othing keeping me here in FL anymore. I did, however, invite her to move with me. No pressure. JUst if she wants to come, she's welcome. She said "I don't know."
I know it surprised her. I'm still being nice too. Maybe, you should go dark, and when your W calls, sound happy. Sound like you're having fun.
One thing that bothers me about that whole thing is this: if they hear you being happy, could it not backfire on you? Could theynot take that as validation that you are better off without them and feel justified in their A's?
Good luck with your sitch man. Hell, good luck to all of you and all of us. We need it.
