NewJohn, I know the feeling. My W had actually only seen OM on four brief occasions when she decided she wanted to divorce me to be with him. It's crazy, isn't it? If our W's had been single, they would never have decided to marry someone they knew so little about. Now, though, it's not only enough to decide they want to be with the OM's forever, its also more than enough to commit a horrible sin, destroy others' lives, and throw away a marriage they had spent years working on. Amazing!
I'm very fortunate to have a special Covenant Marriage here in Louisiana, which in my case means that W can't divorce me until after two years of separation, though I could now divorce her immediately if I wanted to. It's funny because she's the one who was most eager for us to get married with that option, because when we were engaged and during the first year of our marriage, she was worried that I might stray (for no good reason other than insecurity).
I know that my W would have filed for D in January if she could have, and I think that the knowledge that my W will be my W for two years has been a big discouragement to the OM, so having that Covenant Marriage has been a huge blessing. Now, though, I know that W would not file if she could, because she's pretty sure that she wants to return to our marriage eventually.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
