RB, I know you are frustrated because your W seems like she is on the verge of leaving OM, but hasn't. Be thankful you are even seeing that indecision. It sure seems like it's only a matter of time for you. I only wish I were at a similar point in my sitch.

My W now talks to me since I started to DB, but she is anxious to start separation so that she can get a divorce in a year. No signs of any doubts about OM. He is her knight in shining armor. They will live happily ever after.

W started EA with OM 4mos ago on internet. They have only met once in person(!), but talk on the phone constantly. How do you get to really know someone that way? Great foundation for a long-term R, huh?

NewJohn

Me: 44 W: 41 S15 Together 25 years- Married 22 My situation