W31, OM20

[RBinBR]

Well, today D was sick, so I stayed at the house and W said she wanted to come by. She immediately asked me what I had told her parents about her living situation. I told her that, yes, I told them that OM had moved in with her. She asked if I had told them that it was "temporary". I said yes -- I told them that she had said that.

I guess I should step back and explain that we lived with her parents last year and I still am. W has bipolar disorder and usually has serious delusions associated with her manic episodes. She went into a psych hospital for 4 days in November 2004, and we moved in with her parents for a while after that so that they could help me take care of her and our D (since W couldn't help take care of D). We decided to stay there while I tried to establish my own consulting business, but that didn't work out as well as we would have liked. Ironically, we were about to move into our own place when she chose the OM over me.

Anyway, my point was that, since I live with her parents right now and they are very involved in the situation, there is no way that she could expect me not to tell them she has moved in with OM. She is in denial about that fact, saying angrily "We have not moved in together -- this is only temporary." Of course, OM could have gotten a job and an apartment before he moved to Baton Rouge, but that fact escapes her.

She's also furious that I don't want D at her new love nest. She says that I'm using D as a weapon against her. I had also said that we should put visitation on a regular schedule, instead of her just calling when she gets a break in her (admittedly busy) work schedule, and she has decided that I want to keep D from her.

Anyway, since she was angry, I asked her to leave and I handed her my letter explaining that I would not be talking to her anymore (and also suggesting a visitation schedule and covering a few financial things). Apparently, that made her a lot madder, since she drove back after reading the letter and shouted through the door that she was going to distribute to my friends and business associates the things I confessed to in counseling (specifically the problems that I had confessed to with respect to pornography -- and have now conquered). Sigh. I told her to go ahead if she wanted to.

All this just confirmed to me that going dark was the right decision.

I called up an old college girlfriend yesterday, and it was fun to talk to her. She's not seeing anyone, but I don't think she wants to restart anything with me (which is good, because I'm only looking for a little companionship, nothing really romantic). I think I may go to the singles meeting tonight at my church.

Anyway, this post is all over the place, so I guess I should end it.