ame - I know how you feel on this, mine just moved out from OW.
the only adv. I have is to work on yourself - dont contact your H unless it's necessary, let him contact you, and when he does remain polite and stick to the basics, let him lead the convo as far as 'what are we doing'.
and your right, it will go on forever if you let it - mine seemed to, and it was when I went about my life and had the 'as if' attitude that things started turning around. It's hard, I wont lie but I promise you, you will feel so much better about yourself that it will get easier and easier.
