You know what? I would simply say, "Have sex if you want to." Start focusing on the things that you want to do. If you want to have sex with him, go for it. If not, I would say absolutely not. Start defining your life on your own terms. All the DB principles are based on enjoying your own life.
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
