Hi ame- Good questions. I think you need to see how the date is going and how you are feeling and go with your gut if he wants to talk about the R. If i were you, i would try not to discuss it, maybe saying that you are having such a good time and you want to focus on that, and not on the heavy stuff. If he is insistent, you may need to talk about it, so as not to upset the dynamics. When my H and I were dating during our separation, i can remember one time where i wanted to talk about the R, and he said he didn't want to...that the dates were supposed to be fun and not "heavy", so I don't think my H ever brought up R talk while on dates. There were other times when he did, if the purpose of getting together was to talk about stuff. Otherwise, i really avoid R talk at all costs. I don't know if that is helpful to you at all.
I post here...i have several threads...my latest one is "i never knew my life would break my heart." There are other threads that give more details about my sitch, but i don't know how to link them. You can also just search for my screen name.
I hope that you have a great time tonight...you have a wonderful opportunity to benefit your R. Good luck!
