With the help of people here on the forums I was able to write a letter to my H and tell him that I don't want a divorce and that I was cacelling that. However, if he wanted it I wouldn't stop it and I would allow him to move on. At first he was very angry and indicaed that he didn't want to be with me anymore and that he didn't want to mislead me. I think that he was embarrassed about being served at work plus he was hurt.
Anyhow, he called the next night saying that he knows no-one would compare to me (i like to watch sports & we share certain loves). But he expressed how things got extreme and he just didn't know. He asked me, "was he supposed to come home just because I had a change of mind?" I told him that I needed to let him know how I felt and I was at peace with that.
Well, after reading a few chapters of DR I decided to try to reconnect and try something different. So I called and asked if he wanted to hang out sometime this week. He aaid sure how aout tonight? I said sur...he said downtown? I said sure, I'll find someplace different.
My question for you'll...is how should I approach tonight? Should I have a good time...no relationship talk unless he brings it up?
Keep in mind he lives with OW so I feel sort of crappy knowing he;ll go home to her. Any thoughts?
