So, fine, but this "it's not about him" stuff only goes so far. Eventually, when there is a clearer path for my W and I to reconciliation, then it WILL be about the OM because he will be the main obstacle preventing us from working on us.
Will you please stop being a frickin' clairvoyant? It could very well be that in the day if and when you're getting to reconciliation, OM won't be a factor but a long gone variable.
She goes out to "the mall" to do whatever and all the while, scrapping plans for us.
Oh, and as for the surprise thing, my W doesn't do that. She threw a surprise thing of sorts, invited another couple to dinner with us on my b-day and I hated it so she probably won't do that again.
Will she have something for me tomorrow? Maybe, but she got it in the 7 hours she spent shopping today, not the 2 or 3 she will tonight.
You're jumping to your own conclusions in each of those statements.
