First of all, OMG, have you read the V-day cards there are to choose from? I can't buy any of them without first turning in my DB badge and burning DB/DR! Sigh...will have to look again after work...
Now, NYS...
Sarcasm is one of the most effective ways to kill a relationship in time.
For sure. I should have figured this out years ago. I hope it's not too late. In the past month, I have gone from a TON of sarcasm each day to almost none, especially with my W. I think that is a MAJOR change in me and I am really happy with it. It is permanent but I will have my moments.
n the meantime, learn a better way to handle frustration. Cultivate more patience.
Sure. Easy said... Patience is a weakness of mine and something that since minute one of this ordeal I have worked on developing with great success. If I was my "old self" there is NO WAY I could make it through a day waiting, not knowing, etc. I was one of the most impatient people I knew! Now, much better. Still a lot of work to do on that though.
I don't know what she's doing, but I would not rule out that she's totally stopped seeing the OM. I get indications from your posts that she may still be seeing him. You may not be picking up on it, but I am, FWIW
Oh, I am not ruling out either possibility. I truly just don't know. Sure, there are tons of clues that either he is gone, or that she has just gotten better at lying. I am not focusing on that most of the time, but I would be untruthful telling you it doesn't creep in.
That suggests that she's making comparisons between you and the OM, so it really, really behooves you to become the better option right now.
Ok. So she is comparing. It is a stretch for me to be confident enough right now to think I compare to this "love" she has with OM, but in my heart I know I am right for her. I just need to go back to the man that made her know that too.
