Okay...now we have something we can work with. So let's roll up our sleeves and get to work here.
I love when I say something that gives you "something to work on"!!
Do you think you would feel comfortable asking her for a day date for Vday. Invite her to a Vlunch (easier to get reservations btw) and then shopping for the coat afterwards.
Good idea, but I should clarify. I do work during the week as a graphic designer/prepress consultant and have a set schedule so I am not totally free to do that. I do, however, have a lunch break and I just asked her to lunch. She was noncommittal. I asked if she had plans and she laughed and said no. Um...focus...
I think when it comes to women it boils down to those that are materialistic and those that are not.
Well, she comes from a wealthy family and is used to the finer things in life, but despite all that, she is much more down to earth than, say, her sister who has to have all the best of everything. The materialistic thing is one I have struggled with. She doesn't need/want a lot but what she wants, she really wants and expense is not really a factor. Make sense?
While life does change us a bit through the years, we still do have our passions, interests and desires. Your W may have gotten a bit lost in the way, but I am sure there are still somethings that you can recall about her.
Really, no, there isn't anything I can recall as a passion of hers. She really did subjugate her passions/needs/wants for, well, I don't know but like me, she never really expresses her desires. We are alike in that respect. I am really working on changing that about myself and judging by the phone thing yesterday, she may be too. Good thing I think. I will still try to think of what her passions are and make my own short list. Really, she is most passionate about travel and with this trip coming up, I know it can't help but recharge her. That's why I am so focused on not screwing things up before then!
Thanks Lisa for your input. I really appreciate the in-depth stuff and that story about your gift to your exH was wonderful. I would love to have someone put that much thought into something for me...maybe I should start by doing it for her...
