I know that much of what you said was in direct reply to GH's post, but I want to thank you for your perspective on a few things that I can definitely apply in my sitch. Sorry GH for the mini-hijack!
Quote: Anyway, it also seems that you've got her somewhat stopped in her tracks for the moment as she checks you out. That suggests that she's making comparisons between you and the OM, so it really, really behooves you to become the better option right now.
This is definitely applicable in my sitch. My W has indicated that she is looking to work on us (again, just words), but it at least indicates to me that she is making the comparisons. It certainly is in my best interests at this point to show that I can be the better option. I must remember to keep that focus!!
Quote: Sarcasm is one of the most effective ways to kill a relationship in time.
SIGH so true. I must do a better job at filtering my comments, although in a moment of self-reflection, I think I have improved...just have some more work....
Quote: So what's the point of asking? Just pretend he doesn't exist and work on you and your relationship. If he is or isn't in the picture, that will come out in the wash sooner or later. If he is in the picture, there's not telling if he will or won't be next month or not, so keep your focus on the big picture and not the daily rushes.
Absolutely! I know this will be a challenge for me in the weeks ahead, given that my W has said to me that she is "ending" things with him, but the point is, I really don't know if she will or not....and her telling me that she had will not convince me in one way or the other. The only true way that I will be able to tell is from her actions.
Very wise advice that you provided for GH and, in a roundabout way, to me. Thanks.
"Achieve success, but without vanity; Achieve success, but without aggression; Achieve success, but without gain; Achieve success, but without force." Lao Tzu
