Wow, I don't think anyone has admitted to crying over my thread...well, maybe they have, but I am touched. I am so lucky to have people that I really don't know care so deeply. It is amazing really. I don't know if I realize it to be the important moment that you think it was, but I will take your word for it.
As for the coat thing, maybe what you say would work, problem is that she is already going to buy one, but the one I will get her will be much nicer than what she would buy for herself. I know that is a little bit of the same old thinking but she really doesn't have a nice coat and I know she would like one. What better time than now to get it? If nothing else, it will be a slightly larger than necessary gift card because as she knows with anything I get for her, she can always return it.
I need to decide what to do before lunch tomorrow. These are my options so far:
1) I can go to the mall and just start looking, hoping to find something decent. 2) Jewelry. Problem with this is that she has always wanted a new ring from me and other than that, she really has a ton of jewelry. I don't think a new ring would be a good idea considering she doesn't wear the one she has anymore for obvious (and some maybe not so obvious, who knows) reasons. 3) The coat. Practical, but maybe if done right, a thoughtful gesture. 4) Some gift cards to stores she likes. This may be the way to go because she always asks for GCs at holidays and rarely does anyone do it.
Of course, I am going to do a card and maybe a flower thing. I still don't have a clue what direction to go with the card. If you remember, my original idea was to just write "unconditional" in a relatively generic card and let it be. Now, I'm not too sure. Should I write more? Any "thesis" by be would be poorly received so it can't be too long. I don't know. My gut says to keep it simple and let her say whatever she needs to say in whatever she does. Any last minute advice, all things considered?
