Interesting. When I talked to my W after lunch (she was supposed to be meeting us for some shopping) she went into this long, drawn out explanation about what she was doing all morning and why, in particular, the shopping she was doing took so long. At one point I even tried to interrupt her and she insisted on finishing the entire explanation. Very strange for my W. She usually does not do that, especially lately. Who knows, maybe she's telling the truth. Broken trust sucks sometimes.
Ok, I can't find the story I was told about the Kitchen Aid but damn if that wasn't spot on. I think it was Lisa...thank you.
What I am getting at is I just had one of those moments. My W has been mentioning wanting that Razr phone since before Christmas...hint...hint... I didn't get it because we didn't qualify for an upgrade. Even after Christmas, she kept talking about it even though it was expensive and she manages the money. I still didn't do anything. I had about $250 in gift cards to Best Buy and I was had the thing in my hands to buy but I balked because the extra it would cost over that would really put us close to poor and it was foolish to do that...er....yea. So today, we were out getting some stuff for my business (computer stuff) and out of the blue, my W asks if I have any GC's left. I said yes, and she said what about available credit on the CC? I said we had some. It should also be mentioned here that I am hitting my busy season in wedding photography right now and we can afford a bit more than usual. SO, she says, do they have that phone at Best Buy? I said yes, and she asked if we could just go get it. I said sure. I was planning on it sooner or later (well,before the bombs anyway). So we went to get it and she even made the comment that it was her Christmas present. I know this sounds strange, and could be taken the wrong way (WAW spending H's money on extravagant things while planning to leave him...etc...) but really it's the first time I have ever seen her just ask for something. Usually she hints and insinuates. I was totally happy to do it. It's our money and she hardly ever spends any on herself.
What I think I learned is much like that other story, my W wants what she wants, not every other similar thing I get her instead of the real thing. I have been really guilty of that in the past, preferring to surprise her with something I came up with instead of what she said she wanted. No wonder why she is always a bit disappointed. This was a MAJOR lesson for me.
One more piece of news. I mentioned to her that this could also be her V-day present and slipped in a "By the way, are we doing V-day this year?" She looked at me funny and responded with a "yes". The way she said it was that I was kinda foolish to ask. So now what? I guess I just get her something she'd want. She has been talking about needing a jacket for Ireland and I thought I could get her one (and keep the receipt of course). Add a flower and card. Good?
Lastly, the bad news. I slipped on my DB and backslid a little into my old sarcasm. When we were walking to the parking lot, I made the comment that now she had her new phone, new car, and new "other things". Immediately after I said it I hoped she didn't hear, or get what I meant, but of course she did. She said "what other things..." and then "Yea, I didn't think we could get through this without a comment. Well, it's early in the day, keep it going..." I felt terrible. I managed to take something nice and turn it into something negative. I think I recovered ok. I said "No, I will not keep anything going. I am really happy to have done this." I did not dwell on it. We just changed the subject and moved on. The rest of the day was nice. Dinner was good, and the rest of the night goes on...
