It's all about finding that intimacy...what works for one person doesn't work for another. Personally, not a fan of massages, because due to my neck injury everyone gives me a neck rub when I am in severe pain. I don't find it sexual at all, its medicinal for me. However, I am a huge fan of believe it or not hand holding...I find that actually quite erotic.
Okay, enough of that...but you have to relearn what it is that works. I think NYS mentioned something about how foreplay starts early in the week...there may be something to that. Its about rediscovering one another and finding that place in your W heart that you had when you first met. How were you romantically then. That was probably what worked for her, because you won her heart, didn't you. You just have to find that place again. I think there was a great chapter in Mars/Venus that described points that men/women give/take away from one another. Wow, it was so very true when I read it and each and every time I reread it.
