GH,

When I said you have a lot to learn about women I was reacting to the suggestion that women attach emotion to sex while men just want to have as much sex as possible. Sometimes sex is sex, sometimes it is emotional for both men and women.

I think aside from that, and I'm speaking for myself not womankind, there is nothing worse than feeling like your only value is for sex. My H and I have had a pretty good SL but we went through a dry phase when I felt like my H only wanted me for my body and not my mind so I kept rejecting him. It can become a viscous little cycle.

Here's a question for you. Does your W pull away from all physical contact? Do you offer back massages? I'm not able to think of any suggestions at the moment but there must be a way for you to touch your W but in a nonsexual way that isn't threatening to her. Maybe a hand massage.

Oh, and I didn't mean for my response in Imdi's thread to come out as harsh as you seem to have taken it. Don't censor yourself. I just don't think any of us should be assuming things. That's how we got here in the first place.

And hey, I'm jealous as hell your W is still living under the same roof as you. I've been w/out my H since the beginning of the year and as little contact as you have now, you still have the opportunity for her to notice you. Maybe she can't see you with all the weight you've lost. I'm sorry you feel invisible to your W. I feel the same way sometimes.


SuperStressed