First of all FD, I do agree with you and believe you. No need to direct my to the sassy one's comments, which are equally astute. I really needed those slaps and thanks to BOTH of you.
One of the maddening things about this whole scheme, and I think it was something you were alluding to GH, is that, at least in my mind, its not as though we're asking for everything to be perfect, but at least give up the OM and give it a try. Not so much to ask in my opinion. And the truth is, at some point, they WILL have to make a choice....its not as though they can continue to do this forever. At some point, someone is going to reach the end of his/her rope.
Yes. You know I agree with this and I may have gotten defensive with FD because of it but I am at a loss. I think the key to understanding why we can't think this way is understanding the fundamental truth that our WAW do not want to work on the R and they do not want to give up their OM. So, with this in mind, it's easy to see why we need to suck it up and do what we need to do. If we don't, nobody will. We are the stewards of our M while our W is away. Sad, but true. I think yours and my fear is that someday we will find ourselves holding the flame for a M that has been dead at our W's hands for months/years before we extinguish it. I have been reading some posts from a guy named Cliff. I found his threads on the Successful Men thread (I can link to it if you want). He is REALLY good at this stuff and just reading some his posts gives me strength to power on. He's a real Michelle cheerleader but it's nice to see someone so unabashedly pro-DBing without ANY outside influence. Good stuff.
Anyway. It's W's 2nd night of going out for the week tonight. Sundays are her official OM night (well, we don't say that but...) and Mondays are the day when I am supposed to believe her when she says she sees movies and shops by herself. I am going into tonight strong and we'll see how it goes.
