Grasshopper,
looks like this time I slapped you harder, m?
I apologize.
The again, look at it this way: if you were annoyed or offended by my words, it might be for no other reason than them being close to reality. That's why it hurts.
But you as a changed person know now that we can and should change, so I hope instead of an offense you'll find better use for my words


Can't imagine why there would be some underlying tension. I don't expect or demand she drop anything except her boyfriend. If that is controlling and too much to expect then oh well. At some point she will have to do this if we have any hope to reconcile.
Then again, you mentioned that she said that she feels as though you might have a breakdown if she does something, well you know.
That's exactly the thing that our Guru warns against.
If you're mad inside, and not just mad but demanding, it would surely repel anyone even your close friend, let alone a WAS.
Being angry if fine; in fact I would very much like to borrow some of your anger since it took me a long while before I was able to stop blaming myself and awake some anger, and I'm still not very good at it.
The problem is not with being mad, the problem is in being demanding (inside or outside, doesn't matter. Remember detachment? ).

ANd finally, if everything else fails, remember this: by being mad, controlling, demanding, hostile and interrogative, you're directly helping the OM to enjoy R with your W.
You're his best friend the way it looks, m?






Most WAS look at the LBS and say WTF, it took THIS to happen before you WOKE up and smelled the coffee...what about all the pain, lonliness, heartbreak I've endured through the years of our M!! Why NOW? Why did it take this to make you realize that there was something wrong, something missing?
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Strong, you couldn't have been closer to the exact words my WAS said. It certainly shows that a WAS is talking.
Grashopper, listen to Strong. You might not believe me, but it's in your best interests to believe her


Last edited by FireDragon; 02/06/06 06:25 PM.
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