I get what you are saying. The changes are too new to really expect her to do a "180" of her own, and maybe they are somewhat transparent to the extent that I have not been able to fully commit to some of them. Is that about right?
The changes that anyone makes in their lives, must be real, they must be for themselves and no one else, otherwise they will not be true and more than likely the changes will not be permanent. It is possible that history will repeat history.
Most WAS look at the LBS and say WTF, it took THIS to happen before you WOKE up and smelled the coffee...what about all the pain, lonliness, heartbreak I've endured through the years of our M!! Why NOW? Why did it take this to make you realize that there was something wrong, something missing? What assurance do I have that this is permanent (we all know there are no guarantees in life, right, but STILL).
Yes, the changes perhaps could be TOO new, TOO quick for her to grasp or believe. It's about consistency also. Not having backslides into previous behaviour issues. Remember, the WAS is not trusting of the LBS. They may want to, but something holds them back because they've been there, done that, experienced that.
A month, a few weeks, not very long in the scheme of things. Especially when you take into consideration that it took years for the M to get to where it is today...it takes a great deal of time to recover.
At least this is how it was for me as a WAW. Your mileage may vary (YMMV).
