I don't know if I've even asked a question yet, but I'd like to.
Here is the situation: Every once in awhile I'll say or do something that gives my W/XW "flashbacks" of worse times and she'll say something like, "that seemed too much like the old you", and then I'll get defensive and say something along the lines that it's okay to recognize when we are slipping into old habits, but don't think we should be so focused on the past. Of course, I didn't validate her concern, I expressed my own opinion as though I'm a relationship guru, and I put on the Mr. Fix-it hat. What do you do when this comes up? What if I have similar flashbacks to times when things weren't so peachy?
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
