He called me back later that day and said he was sorry for over reacting to our convo about that "friend"
Quote: The other thing you said was he yelled something about him (the person you were talking to) being better than himself can't remember exactly what you said - but to me it appeared that you may have been saying the other person is doing well in their life and he took it as you telling him that he wasn't
He tells you that you are absolutely wrong just say 'that saddens me that you think I am so wrong' and change the subject
he yells to get his point across - then you get quieter the louder he gets don't escalate with him and when you get quiet you really have to take control and say 'I hate yelling and arguing this way so I am going to go and will discuss it later with you when we both stop being angry and yelling' and then hang up
you are allowing him to yell by continuing to listen you allow him to argue by arguing back
change your behaviour you change his
when you talk again you can say it is healthy to get disagreements out in the open - but by discussing them not arguing about them loudly - so lets make a pact if we begin to argue and get loud then we won't talk till we have both calmed down and instead of arguing about who is right or wrong we will talk about the solutions to our disagreement
change how you react and you change how he does
change you change him
Thanks . . that's really good advice that I'll definately try to follow . . sometimes it's just so hard when I'm on this d@mn hormonal rollercoaster. I get so frustraighted with myself because some days (like yesterday for example) I just feel like I could cry all day long and never be able to pinpoint a reason . . I think I've already started to "nest" clutter has been driving me up a wall and I scrub and rescrub everything . . if I keep this up for 4 months I'll have the cleanest living space around! My H is coming for a visit tomorrow and we're going to have our taxs done . . whoopie! At least will get a return and that'll help out a lot! I'm going to ride out this thing until I'm done being pregnant and back to normal, I know I get a little crazy when I'm pregnant and I'll be able to think much more clearly about our R when I have normal hormones again!
I'm having new and improved roomie problems . . . I wish I could just get it over with and ask her to please go back home. She hasn't stayed here in about two weeks, she's been staying up with her guyfriend at his house. So she hasn't went to the store or contributed anything to the house (which is fine with me . . I wouldn't ask her to pay for food I eat) BUT on her nights off (since she's been working two jobs) she still comes here and eats. That frustraights me a lot . . . then she bring all her dirty laundry from his house and does it here yesterday. Since her wheelbearing in her truck is going out and she doesn't want to drive it until she can get it in the shop . . she decides she's going to call my parents and ask them if she can use their truck (which they left at my grandmothers while they are in FL.) I had already asked if my H and I could use it Wednesday to get our taxes taken care of (Since our car isn't running currently) . . that's not the point. It wouldn't start (batteries dead because no one started since they left) so she stayed here lastnight and her mom picked her up for work (why doesn't she just go home????????). I think part of the reason she won't just go home is because her parents don't know she's been staying at this guys house . . and I don't think they'd like it if they did know. She turned EVERY light in the house on at 5:30 this morning and woke up my daughter . . . and I just really want her to leave. I just don't want her to be mad at me . . . I have real issues with that. Am I being stupid, or should I try and get the courage to ask her to leave?
