Just joining this area because StrongEnough invited me and it does seem like this is where I should be at this stage in the game.
Let me try and give you the short version of a long story, My H and I have been seperated since December 12, 2005. Only about 2 months, but it's felt a lot longer!! In the begining he kicked me out he "hated" me etc. He wanted the D . . . BUT we started to "date" around Christmas. Just last week I think it was he called me and told me it was all a terrible mistake and he wanted us to get back together. I've read the book and we've (he and I ) have come a long way. But my biggest concern now is us reverting right back into the "distructive habits" that ruined the R in the first place. He is working on getting his job transfered so that he can move up here and he and I can then move in together.
He just left yesterday and he had come up on Tuesday . . we had a good time and it's hard to watch him go . . but it helps me stay motavated to change the things that need to change in order for us to have a great loving marriage.
One of the biggest problems I think that we will have is going to be family opposition (most of why he kicked me out was because his mother hated me! Still does). I've told my family our plans to get back together and my mother still acts as though nothing has changed and he's still just out in la la land and has nothing to do with me. Even though she knows he was just here for a visit, she doesn't seem to understand that it was a husband visiting wife and kids because they currently have to live apart . . not father visiting child because that's all he gets. It's frustraighting to me. He doesn't feel that he can tell his parents exactly what's going on because he's afraid that his mother will kick him out (since he is currently staying with them).
I think that I have gotten most of the story in here and I'm not sure if it all makes sense. If anyone has any question they need to ask to clear things up just ask . . and I'll answer as best I can.
